.
Most difficulties particularly with a partner are based on differences of perceptions. Perceptions are based on beliefs. These beliefs are mostly subconscious, therefore trying to resolve differences by talking to someone is rarely successful, especially if you have opposing beliefs, think about a Christian and a Muslim trying to convince each other that theirs is the most correct religion.
Finding common ground, being open and willing to consider that the other person has beliefs that are just as real and powerful to them, opens the energy for compromise.
Since your beliefs are mostly subconscious learning how to be aware of them and learning to change them can be difficult. There are many tools, programs, and various websites that will sell you the answers all day long, that promise to assist you in solving your problems and making your pain go away.
I will tell you that some of them may be helpful in some cases, but in reality it is you yourself that has to change and only you can decide to do that. Unless and until you work on yourself and your inner, subconscious beliefs, paradigms and old patterns you will get the same results no matter what you change in your outer world.
As in most of my teaching I refer to dancing, and it was that process that helped me understand how to be a better person. To learn to dance I had to find a good teacher, pay for lessons and then practice, and I have used that same process to change my inner world, learn how to help others, learn how to be a good partner, and how to change my beliefs. When I don't know how to do something I find a teacher, learn from them and then practice. And a lot of practice may be required. This is where most people give up.
Having a great coach is the best option available. Much like in a sport the players would not push themselves, or practice if the coach does not motivate and inspire them, That is his job. The nature of this work challenges most people and can be very difficult to achieve any degree of success if you try it alone. Even having a like minded friend can assist greatly in this work.
I am currently putting together a program that will enable small groups that would facilitate helping each other in a very powerful and meaningful way.
For now if you are struggling, or want to change your life go to my website -
www.craigtees.com
sign up for my free booklet and get started in your journey,
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Sunday, November 18, 2012
Thursday, July 12, 2012
. Capture the Heart of a Taurus .
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Their sensuality is legendary (think Penelope Cruz, Michelle Pfeiffer, Cate Blanchett and George Clooney). Their temper is also legendary when they’re pushed too far. Nonetheless, the beautiful Bull is hard to resist. If you want to capture the heart of a Taurus, here are some things you need to know.
Get physical
Love combined with plenty of physical attention is the Taurus version of Heaven. As a super-sensual Earth sign, it’s no surprise that Taurus has a deep well of sexuality within their psyche. They may not be the most adventurous in bed, but their responsiveness is unmatched. Just caressing their hand or lightly stroking their hair will set a Taurus on fire.
With artsy Venus as their ruler, Taurus basks in a beautiful ambiance, complete with enticing music, candlelight and (think sensual again) scrumptious food and drink. Luxuriously soft sheets will keep your Taurus happy, too. What’s more, Taurus has a deep appreciation of nature, from a walk in the woods to the scent of freshly cut grass. So when pursuing a Taurus, keep in mind that they’re highly attuned to all things physical.
Be yourself
Although the Bull is their symbol, Taurus has an infallible BS detector. If you come off the least bit phony, attempting to appear more successful, knowledgeable, confident or together than you really are, your Taurus will look you straight in the eyes in a manner that leaves no doubt you’re full of baloney. Nevertheless, if your Taurus feels connected to you, either by friendship or something deeper, they will accept you just as you are. Period. That’s one of their best qualities. Rarely will they strive to change someone they care for. You can have a history of naughty behavior, failed romances or dismal professional prospects, but if you have a good heart, your Taurus will respond to it.
That’s not to say that Taurus has infinite patience. Well, close to infinite — their steadfastness is the core of their personal power — but they have their limits if you continually mess up. That’s because Taurus will only respect a partner who has inner strength and integrity. You can make mistakes and still gain their love, but you’d better be disciplined in pursuing your goals and centered in who you are.
Be consistent
An important thing to know about Taurus is their need for security. The one thing Taurus hates nearly as much as phoniness is unreliability. As a fixed Earth sign, Taurus is the least adaptable sign of the zodiac. (Scorpio comes in a close second.) They don’t do well with people who break promises, even if that promise is just a dinner date at 7 p.m. (not 7:20, mind you). If you must change or cancel a date, you’d better have an exceptionally good reason. Nothing short of total incapacitation will do.
Speaking of security, financial reliability is a must for Taurus as well. Not financial wealth necessarily (although your practical Taurus would certainly appreciate that), but they need financial dependability and stability to feel safe with you.
Second only to emotional turmoil (don’t even think of cheating on them), nothing rattles a Taurus more than financial upheaval. It strikes at the core of their need for security. Your Taurus will stand by you through every imaginable challenge, but too much instability will have them reeling and will make them shut down emotionally.
Fight fair
Think your dependable, good-natured Taurus is incapable of getting angry? Think again. Whoever thought up the saying “like a bull in a china shop” undoubtedly encountered a riled up Taurus. They can lift the roof off a building with their anger, but you’ll have to push your Taurus pretty hard into a corner before they lose control. Fight fairly, without unnecessary fireworks, and you’ll be able to work through any relationship issue with your Taurus.
Perhaps most important, Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of love. If you love your Taurus with your body, mind and soul, you’ll capture their heart and keep it forever
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By Cortney Litwin
Their sensuality is legendary (think Penelope Cruz, Michelle Pfeiffer, Cate Blanchett and George Clooney). Their temper is also legendary when they’re pushed too far. Nonetheless, the beautiful Bull is hard to resist. If you want to capture the heart of a Taurus, here are some things you need to know.
Get physical
Love combined with plenty of physical attention is the Taurus version of Heaven. As a super-sensual Earth sign, it’s no surprise that Taurus has a deep well of sexuality within their psyche. They may not be the most adventurous in bed, but their responsiveness is unmatched. Just caressing their hand or lightly stroking their hair will set a Taurus on fire.
With artsy Venus as their ruler, Taurus basks in a beautiful ambiance, complete with enticing music, candlelight and (think sensual again) scrumptious food and drink. Luxuriously soft sheets will keep your Taurus happy, too. What’s more, Taurus has a deep appreciation of nature, from a walk in the woods to the scent of freshly cut grass. So when pursuing a Taurus, keep in mind that they’re highly attuned to all things physical.
Be yourself
Although the Bull is their symbol, Taurus has an infallible BS detector. If you come off the least bit phony, attempting to appear more successful, knowledgeable, confident or together than you really are, your Taurus will look you straight in the eyes in a manner that leaves no doubt you’re full of baloney. Nevertheless, if your Taurus feels connected to you, either by friendship or something deeper, they will accept you just as you are. Period. That’s one of their best qualities. Rarely will they strive to change someone they care for. You can have a history of naughty behavior, failed romances or dismal professional prospects, but if you have a good heart, your Taurus will respond to it.
That’s not to say that Taurus has infinite patience. Well, close to infinite — their steadfastness is the core of their personal power — but they have their limits if you continually mess up. That’s because Taurus will only respect a partner who has inner strength and integrity. You can make mistakes and still gain their love, but you’d better be disciplined in pursuing your goals and centered in who you are.
Be consistent
An important thing to know about Taurus is their need for security. The one thing Taurus hates nearly as much as phoniness is unreliability. As a fixed Earth sign, Taurus is the least adaptable sign of the zodiac. (Scorpio comes in a close second.) They don’t do well with people who break promises, even if that promise is just a dinner date at 7 p.m. (not 7:20, mind you). If you must change or cancel a date, you’d better have an exceptionally good reason. Nothing short of total incapacitation will do.
Speaking of security, financial reliability is a must for Taurus as well. Not financial wealth necessarily (although your practical Taurus would certainly appreciate that), but they need financial dependability and stability to feel safe with you.
Second only to emotional turmoil (don’t even think of cheating on them), nothing rattles a Taurus more than financial upheaval. It strikes at the core of their need for security. Your Taurus will stand by you through every imaginable challenge, but too much instability will have them reeling and will make them shut down emotionally.
Fight fair
Think your dependable, good-natured Taurus is incapable of getting angry? Think again. Whoever thought up the saying “like a bull in a china shop” undoubtedly encountered a riled up Taurus. They can lift the roof off a building with their anger, but you’ll have to push your Taurus pretty hard into a corner before they lose control. Fight fairly, without unnecessary fireworks, and you’ll be able to work through any relationship issue with your Taurus.
Perhaps most important, Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of love. If you love your Taurus with your body, mind and soul, you’ll capture their heart and keep it forever
.
Monday, April 23, 2012
Getting rid of Problems
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Problems - quite fascinating things. They keep you up at night, cause havoc in your life and generally make life difficult.
So what do you do with them?
Here are some truths about problems and their solutions -
1. You cannot get rid of a problem until you get rid of what is causing it, and that is a quandry in and of itself. So step back from the problem and look at the big picture view in order to see the entire problem.
2. You cannot take part of the problem and move it out of the equation to somewhere else, if you do the solution to the problem is no longer available.
We all do this and sometimes feel we have solved the problem because we have solved one part of it. Much like an algebraic equation you have only solved what is between one set of brackets, in order to solve the entire problem you have to complete the entire equation.
So how do you solve the problem of having problems?
1, Accept there will always be problems, it is how we learn to navigate through life.
2. If the answer is not apparent -(which by the way is true in ever case, because if you had the answer you no longer have a problem) then you have to work on getting the entire problem, step back and see if you can find the source first, rather than blaming someone else for the problem.
3. get some help - much like algebra, calculus, geometry and physics, we all had to learn from someone that understood the process of solving those equations. Find someone that is experienced in solving problems and can help you see and resolve yours.
4. Sometimes you are simply faced with a dilemma that can be a problem in and of itself or is simply requires a firm decision to resolve - here is one of my simple problem/dilemma solutions - ask your self these questions
A. is this going to help me or hurt me?
B. Will this move me closer to my goal or further away?
I am a Certified Master Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and can help you resolve what you are struggling with.
If you would like assistance with Your situation click the link below
Solve Your Problems
.
Problems - quite fascinating things. They keep you up at night, cause havoc in your life and generally make life difficult.
So what do you do with them?
Here are some truths about problems and their solutions -
1. You cannot get rid of a problem until you get rid of what is causing it, and that is a quandry in and of itself. So step back from the problem and look at the big picture view in order to see the entire problem.
2. You cannot take part of the problem and move it out of the equation to somewhere else, if you do the solution to the problem is no longer available.
We all do this and sometimes feel we have solved the problem because we have solved one part of it. Much like an algebraic equation you have only solved what is between one set of brackets, in order to solve the entire problem you have to complete the entire equation.
So how do you solve the problem of having problems?
1, Accept there will always be problems, it is how we learn to navigate through life.
2. If the answer is not apparent -(which by the way is true in ever case, because if you had the answer you no longer have a problem) then you have to work on getting the entire problem, step back and see if you can find the source first, rather than blaming someone else for the problem.
3. get some help - much like algebra, calculus, geometry and physics, we all had to learn from someone that understood the process of solving those equations. Find someone that is experienced in solving problems and can help you see and resolve yours.
4. Sometimes you are simply faced with a dilemma that can be a problem in and of itself or is simply requires a firm decision to resolve - here is one of my simple problem/dilemma solutions - ask your self these questions
A. is this going to help me or hurt me?
B. Will this move me closer to my goal or further away?
I am a Certified Master Life Coach, NLP Practitioner and can help you resolve what you are struggling with.
If you would like assistance with Your situation click the link below
Solve Your Problems
.
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Diagnosed with incurable Cancer 10 Years ago
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Here is Amazing story from a woman that was diagnosed with cancer 10 years ago and what she did to change her life.
We often have a tendency to ignore
our deepest fears.
We're innately programmed to avert these
fears, ignore them, push them down.
The problem, however, is that when we
do that they don't go away or play less
of a role in our lives.
If anything, they play a bigger, and
oftentimes more unconscious role.
The good news is that you can finally
do something about these fears.
Watch this video with NY Times
bestselling author Kris Carr as
she shares some of her deepest
fears and what she did to overcome
them:
Tapping Solutions
.
Here is Amazing story from a woman that was diagnosed with cancer 10 years ago and what she did to change her life.
We often have a tendency to ignore
our deepest fears.
We're innately programmed to avert these
fears, ignore them, push them down.
The problem, however, is that when we
do that they don't go away or play less
of a role in our lives.
If anything, they play a bigger, and
oftentimes more unconscious role.
The good news is that you can finally
do something about these fears.
Watch this video with NY Times
bestselling author Kris Carr as
she shares some of her deepest
fears and what she did to overcome
them:
Tapping Solutions
.
Transformation and Finding the Divine
Wow quite a while since my last entry, but I have been deep in transition. So let me explain. What I will share here with you is beyond any price therefore I have chosen to simply share it with everyone. If you should choose to use it yourself, there may be times when you need assistance, support or additional understanding. For that you can contact me for coaching sessions at the link shown on the bottom of this article.
As any of you that have read previous posts know I have done considerable work and studies around spiritual issues and changing my life. The result is that I found myself still stuck in the same patterns and having the same results. So I shifted my focus from learning to understanding, I asked for clarity regarding what I was missing, what I needed to see and understand,
As I sat quietly it came, in a collage of events, by emails, guidance from my higher self and processes from a program I purchased.
I had sworn off purchasing any more programs, as I have an extensive library of information, programs and processes that covers every aspect of spiritual transformation and growth. So I decided that buying more was not going to be helpful to me. So why did I still purchase this program? As I asked for guidance and understanding I also had to learn to listen to what I am guided to do,
You see one of the aspects of transformation energy is that there are times when you are required to take action This was one of those times. As my mind was saying no more programs, my soul said you need this. Therefore I took action and it changed my life.
I discovered a profound series of intertwined links between my beliefs, childhood conditioning, guilt and fear as well as my self worth.
It also involves the understanding of the morphogenic field which I will explain.
it also involves going beyond knowing this information and actually making it work for you,
Due to the complexity of understanding this change I have to break it down into individual modules.
First and foremost you have to make this the absolute most important thing in your life, what I mean by that is simply this -
It requires you to have the desire to do this because it is important and meaningful to you, not because I told you it is important or because you think it will get you something.
For instance - in a relationship - if one partner does something for the other knowing it is meaningful to that person, it conveys a sense of caring, but sometimes there is a tiny bit of resentment or resistance. What that conveys is a lack of connection, and although it is never communicated in words it is communicated energetically. And that form of communication cannot be distorted, your partner will know immediately and feel that energy.
on the other hand if you decided to make it of great importance to you, to do that, because giving that to your partner is meaningful to your connection with them, and you want to be able to convey that to them, everything changes in regard to your ability to connect and the energy that you share.
Applying this to transformation - you have to employ the same aspect to your commitment and energy connection to your self and to transforming your life.
The morphogenic field is simply the energy that is all around us and connects us all together.
We all know and understand this mentally, and in actuality experience it all of the time. Understanding that what you think and feel travels out on this energetic network and reflects back you everything you think and feel. Fortunately it does not not respond in real time. By that I mean when you think something it does not always happen instantly, this is for our own protection.
A child has to learn how to use things like silverware, to learn to use math and other skills. The same with driving a car, or dancing, someone that is knowledgeable has to teach us.
the same with this field, knowing it exists does not teach you to use it correctly. As the movie “THE Secret” it explained the concept, but did not really explain what is required to make it work all of the time.
Your Guilt and Fear are the greatest detriments to managing this network of energy.
Once you know the power of this Amazing gift, you then have to learn how to release past conditioning.
3. As a child we were all conditioned in certain ways many of which involved guilt and fear. This is a very complex and challenging part of transformation, again understanding what it is and how to change it will accelerate your ability to manifest what you want.
This may require a trained counselor, but many have found that using the Emotional Freedom Technique is a very powerful tool for this work. -
click here for more info -
Tapping Solution
4. Along with this another element is knowing what you love to do.. and literally hurling yourself into it. Making it your primary focus every day!
So this is a lot of information and I will continue to expand on it in the next few days,
In the Meantime you can check this out - -
Soul Coach
.
As any of you that have read previous posts know I have done considerable work and studies around spiritual issues and changing my life. The result is that I found myself still stuck in the same patterns and having the same results. So I shifted my focus from learning to understanding, I asked for clarity regarding what I was missing, what I needed to see and understand,
As I sat quietly it came, in a collage of events, by emails, guidance from my higher self and processes from a program I purchased.
I had sworn off purchasing any more programs, as I have an extensive library of information, programs and processes that covers every aspect of spiritual transformation and growth. So I decided that buying more was not going to be helpful to me. So why did I still purchase this program? As I asked for guidance and understanding I also had to learn to listen to what I am guided to do,
You see one of the aspects of transformation energy is that there are times when you are required to take action This was one of those times. As my mind was saying no more programs, my soul said you need this. Therefore I took action and it changed my life.
I discovered a profound series of intertwined links between my beliefs, childhood conditioning, guilt and fear as well as my self worth.
It also involves the understanding of the morphogenic field which I will explain.
it also involves going beyond knowing this information and actually making it work for you,
Due to the complexity of understanding this change I have to break it down into individual modules.
First and foremost you have to make this the absolute most important thing in your life, what I mean by that is simply this -
It requires you to have the desire to do this because it is important and meaningful to you, not because I told you it is important or because you think it will get you something.
For instance - in a relationship - if one partner does something for the other knowing it is meaningful to that person, it conveys a sense of caring, but sometimes there is a tiny bit of resentment or resistance. What that conveys is a lack of connection, and although it is never communicated in words it is communicated energetically. And that form of communication cannot be distorted, your partner will know immediately and feel that energy.
on the other hand if you decided to make it of great importance to you, to do that, because giving that to your partner is meaningful to your connection with them, and you want to be able to convey that to them, everything changes in regard to your ability to connect and the energy that you share.
Applying this to transformation - you have to employ the same aspect to your commitment and energy connection to your self and to transforming your life.
The morphogenic field is simply the energy that is all around us and connects us all together.
We all know and understand this mentally, and in actuality experience it all of the time. Understanding that what you think and feel travels out on this energetic network and reflects back you everything you think and feel. Fortunately it does not not respond in real time. By that I mean when you think something it does not always happen instantly, this is for our own protection.
A child has to learn how to use things like silverware, to learn to use math and other skills. The same with driving a car, or dancing, someone that is knowledgeable has to teach us.
the same with this field, knowing it exists does not teach you to use it correctly. As the movie “THE Secret” it explained the concept, but did not really explain what is required to make it work all of the time.
Your Guilt and Fear are the greatest detriments to managing this network of energy.
Once you know the power of this Amazing gift, you then have to learn how to release past conditioning.
3. As a child we were all conditioned in certain ways many of which involved guilt and fear. This is a very complex and challenging part of transformation, again understanding what it is and how to change it will accelerate your ability to manifest what you want.
This may require a trained counselor, but many have found that using the Emotional Freedom Technique is a very powerful tool for this work. -
click here for more info -
Tapping Solution
4. Along with this another element is knowing what you love to do.. and literally hurling yourself into it. Making it your primary focus every day!
So this is a lot of information and I will continue to expand on it in the next few days,
In the Meantime you can check this out - -
Soul Coach
.
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