Surrender

How to Surrender -

I read recently about being a VIP and how it relates to surrender. Who do you think is the most powerful person in a limousine? The chauffer or the VIP in the back seat? Yes the chauffer gets to drive, and may make some decisions regarding which road to take or how fast to go, but ultimately the VIP decides where to go and when, He then sits backs and trusts the chauffer will take him where he wants to go.

He doesn’t, lean up over the seat and give directions, tell the chauffer where to go, or to slow down, or where to park. The VIP doesn’t ask the chauffer why he takes a certain road, nor does he fret about the details of the trip. He trusts the chauffeur, and by surrendering he allows the process to work, and yet in that he doesn’t give up any of HIS POWER to the chauffer.

So we often want to be the VIP and yet decide that being the chauffer is more to our liking. We can’t trust the process, and in doing so disempower ourselves to a great degree, we want to be the VIP, AND the chauffer. In doing so we actually give up the luxury and power that only comes from sitting in the back seat and allowing the process to work.

So knowing what our job is and understanding how to let go of what we “think” is right or correct is our challenge. So often I talk to people who are literally trapped in their own fear, that they are unable and unwilling to let go of past conditioning, old beliefs and unresolved issues. This prevents the very growth and movement that they stated they desired in the first place. When I suggest they get in the back seat and become a VIP they panic, gripping the steering wheel tightly, they simply cannot relinquish the need to control every facet of life.

Becoming a VIP does not mean giving up your power, it means knowing and understanding how to use power. I have never heard of a chauffer abusing a VIP (even if they don’t like the person). IN reality even though the chauffer is driving the limo, he has no power to make decisions. This subtle insight may be the simple step missing in your journey. When you relax sit back and trust that all you want and need is being given to you and that you don’t need to control every detail, you will find the Joy and ease of life.

I recently watched the movie “Into the Wild”. A very powerful and moving story about a young man who is trying to unravel his childhood conditioning and find his own truth, which he eventually does, but it is too late, and the result is catastrophic. Unfortunately he had no guide or coach, (which is what our parents could do for us, but often don’t because they are trapped in their own nonsense) Hence the reason I have repeatedly recommended working with a good coach or guide to move through the maze of growth and change, along with a good support group.